4 tips to help find your interests, passions and hobbies
If you don't feel like you have one, true passion and find it difficult to develop new hobbies and interests, then you're just like me. It doesn't mean you're boring though and you don't have to give up!
Here is 4 tips to help find your interests, passions and hobbies:
You can’t be forced.
I would call myself a very 'general' person, I’ve always been kind of creative but I’ve never felt like I’ve had something that I was really passionate about. It’s not for lack of trying either; I’ve dabbled in painting, drawing, piano, bass, programming, gardening and a freaking lot of other things! But I never really found the thing that was really me.
Now, I’m ok with that because I’d rather be a little bit good at a lot of things than really good at one thing - it means I can adapt to situations easily and most of the time I’ll be ok. (Although we do definitely need the people that are really good at one thing too, or you wouldn’t have anybody doing PHD’s and the world wouldn’t be where it is today.)
In my childhood I played the piano for NINE years.
You're probably like "Whaaaat!!? This girl must be some really passionate, amazing pianist!!??" Well no, not at all - and the reason I’m not is because my parents forced me to play the piano for that whole time. I never enjoyed it and I absolutely hated playing in front of people at concerts. As soon as I was allowed to I stopped straight away.
Now, I don’t want to criticise my upbringing here because my parents gave me an amazing childhood and learning the piano also gave me some basic musical understanding that I wouldn’t otherwise have. But I was never passionate about it because I was forced.
So the main point here is that you have to come up with the idea yourself and although the other people around you can support you with your interests, passions and hobbies, they can’t force you to do anything you don’t want to or that just isn’t you.
You need to choose your passions yourself.
DEVELOP and work for your passions.
So moving on to maybe the most important point of all: you have to develop your passions. Nobody is born with a passion. I don’t know if your parents told you this but when you were first born your main interests were screaming, crying, pooping and spewing. Luckily, you grew out of those interests, but the point is that you don’t always completely love something the first time you do it. Maybe sometimes, like if your passion is ‘skydiving’ or something but most of the time we appreciate things more when we’ve worked hard for them.
For example, if someone is passionate about playing a musical instrument, they didn’t one day just pick up that instrument and start playing and were just all of a sudden really passionate about it, they would’ve had to learn all the notes and the chords and it was probably really frustrating at the start and after a while of working at it, they started to see what they’re capable of and that’s when the passion kicks in. So you don’t actually ‘find’ your passion, you ‘develop’ it, because it takes work before you really love it.
A passion is a process and it’s the process that you love, it’s not the ‘thing’ it’s the ‘doing’.
So the best way to develop your passion is to make it a habit. Humans are habitual beings and most of the things we do are the same things that we’ve done before. To develop a passion, you need to incorporate your new hobby into your everyday life and practise it every day - or at least on a regular basis, depending what it is.
I know a lot of hobbies are expensive and you might not have the money at the start to do whatever it is properly or to the level that you want to, so this brings me to my next tip:
Learn about your passion.
Even if you can’t afford it at first, do your research. If it’s something that is really you, you’ll know if you want to pursue it when you learn the actual theory about it.
Like if you want to start rock climbing but you can’t afford all the ropes and equipment yet, look it up. Google it, YouTube it, read, listen to podcasts - there is so much free information out there and it will really help to develop your passion when you learn the theory behind it. You could even find cheaper, more temporary ways of pursuing it. Then, when you really get into it, you’ll know what you’re doing, you’ll have a better understanding and you’ll SMASH IT IN THE FACE!
You can also learn through conversation with others, so talk about it with your friends and family, talking about it will help you to understand better what you think and how you feel about your passion.
Now the last point is the hardest of all but probably the most effective. Google Dictionary actually defines the word ‘passion’ as:
1. strong and barely controllable emotion.
So to be passionate about something is to actually be really excited and emotional about the thing, so much that it motivates you to take action.
Now you might not think that you have a choice over this but you actually have more control over your emotions than you might think. Just like we all have physical habits like sleeping habits, exercise or a coffee in the morning – we also have emotional habits that you have control over with your mind!
For example, if you get a sinking feeling every time you think about the fact that you have to do your homework, or that assignment is due, that’s an emotional habit. That feeling is a habit you’ve developed over years of procrastinating and not enjoying doing your homework.
Well the same thing works in the opposite way, if you really enjoy doing something or you want to be more passionate about it, you need to notice the positive emotions that you experience when you’re doing the thing and before you are doing the thing.
If you can name the feeling, that’s even better but really going into it and focusing on it can truely intensify the emotion. Focus on where you are feeling it in your body and what it feels like, let it happen to you, it’s real chemicals making physical changes in your body.
The more you do this before and during practising your hobby or interest, the more passionate you will be about it all the time.
So that’s my 4 tips to help find your interests, passions and hobbies. Here's a brief summary:
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